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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Day 140- A big announcement!... and a few smaller ones

So, I've been posting a lot of videos lately. I figured it was for time for an actual blog. A lot has been going on lately but, I won't leave you all in suspense. Here's the big announcement: Trevor and I are...........

MOVING IN TOGETHER!!!

I will be moving into the new apartment with Trevor, Kayla, and Holly. The apartment is gorgeous and big. I'm so excited. I am a little nervous but my mom told me, "If you weren't nervous, you wouldn't be taking it seriously." It's a big step, but I think we're ready. I feel like I should be freaking out but I'm not. This feels right and I'm so ready.

Other things that have been going on. We're on Spring Break. It's been nice to sit back and relax, but we're back to school on Monday. Midterms sucked my butt. The Spring Drag Show is creeping up. I signed up to do a drag show at the University of Minnesota- Duluth on March 26th. I'm psyched. I'm doing two country songs, one of which is a duet with my buddy Aiden Gage. Next weekend I'm going home for a friend's 21st birthday. I have so much going in in the coming months, it's crazy!!!

Here's a glimpse into my life:
(Keep in mind that I have classes, homework and activities until April 30th and packing to do)
March 19: Home for Schroeder's birthday
March 26: UMD Drag Show
April 7: SCSU Spring Drag Show
April 30: Moving
May 2-6: Finals
May 14: Arlene & Kory's Wedding
June 5: EC Pride and Drag Show
June 25-26: Twin Cities Pride

Friday, March 11, 2011

Day 138- Video Blog #3

Day 137 - My first attack

Last week I was sitting on the couch at Trevor's, minding my own business. I had signed out of my personal Facebook and into my Drag persona's Facebook to play some Farmville and update the page. When I signed back on to my Facebook I had a message waiting in my inbox. I opened and read it.





This message has made my life somewhat difficult lately. There are several things to keep in mind. I have NEVER actually met or talked to this woman. She is one of my best friends' step-mother. We'd be friends on Facebook for a few years and exchanged the occasional comment back and forth.

I know that these words shouldn't affect me, her opinion doesn't even matter. But, the comparisons are just so painful. Being queer and trans is NOT the same as doing drugs and/or sleeping around. And the last sentence where she asks, "One questions I ask you to ask yourself - if your life is so wonderful, why do you need anti depressants?" Because I've been depressed to the point of suicidal thoughts since I was 12 years old, BEFORE I even came out or knew who I was attracted. The audacity of some people. I didn't ask for her opinion, nor did I want it. The nerve of this woman amazes me. I'm really glad that you have such a strong opinion of me, seeing as how we have never met, ever. She has never had a conversation with me. All she knows about me is from Facebook and whatever her daughter has told her.

I'm going to write her back but I have to take A LOT of time to formulate what I'm going to say because at this moment it would pretty much read, "Who the fuck do you think you are?"

That which doesn't kill me, will make me stronger. I will be stronger from this one day. This doesn't affect my relationship with any of my friends, family, Trevor, or this woman's daughter. It just reminds me that not everyone is accepting as my amazing friends and family.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Day 131- I'm a TMate!!!

Hey there everyone!

So, I have some good news! For those of you who don't know I was invited to audition for TMatesFTM, a YouTube channel that caters exclusively to SOFFAs (Significant Others, Family, Friends, and Allies of transexual people) of FTM transgender/transexual (it's all about how you identify) men. Sammie, who is dating Daniel, also auditioned. What we had to do was make a video talking about who we are, about our guys, and what we could bring to the channel. Our videos are at the bottom of this post for those of you that haven't seen them, or just want to watch them again.

Well, the results are in and... Sammie and I were both accepted for Round 5 of TMates! My day is Wednesday and Sammie's is Tuesdays. Each week we have a different topic to talk about. Our days are the days that we upload our videos to the channel on. :) I'm so excited. If you want to watch my and/or Sammie's videos just go to YouTube (if you don't have an account, make one quick), then put in this link: http://www.youtube.com/user/TMatesFTM and click on the 'Subscribe' button. :) I'll try to remember to post a link on this blog every week. But you should definitely subscribe to the channel.

I am so excited to get started and to tell mine and Trevor's story. I really want to raise awareness of trans issues and remove the stigmas from the word 'transgender'. I also want to show other SOFFAs that they are not alone. There are so many people out there that care about/love/are in relationships with transgender people. It's hard sometimes, but if it's real and you love the person it is so worth it. I can't imagine my life without Trevor. I don't even want to think of where I'd be today if I had taken the outs he gave me when he came out. I love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I have never felt this way about another person, I never thought I could feel this way about anyone. It's funny that you didn't know you wanted something so bad until you have it.

I'm also including the results video in this post too. It's just really amazing to hear Mel say my name. :)